Richard Chan

My father was Chinese, was as he passed three years ago at the time of writing this. I think being the firstborn son there were expectations of success put on me at an early age, I wasn’t exactly an academic rising star at school and didn’t get high enough grades to enter Universities with the quality that I wanted and instead found a diploma course at a reputable polytechnic, however dad managed to find a 3rd tier University that I would qualify for. I chose the diploma. I never felt that my dad was proud of me, even not turning up to my graduation. This permeated through my life until I worked through it and and now I AM ENOUGH.

I am not loveable

I never saw or felt love in the family growing up. I didn’t get hugs and was very shy as a kid. I certainly wasn’t confident with going out with girls in school and later women. To a certain extent the limiting belief of I am not good enough crept into this.

I didn’t have a large number of friends, generally keeping myself to myself at breaks. I was a target for bullies and just lacked the confidence to believe that people would be interested in me.

Do you know what, have you seen any baby that is unlovable, we are all loveable when we are born, no one takes that away from us, we take that away from us. We are responsible for believing that we are unlovable and that generally starts because we don’t love ourselves. I learned to love myself and by saying that I am 10 out of 10 I am not bragging, there’s a coaching saying Perception is projection. … Projection is where we see attributes that we possess showing up in other people. It’s essential to recognise that if we didn’t, at some level, believe possessed these attributes ourselves, we could never see it in others.

Success is gained through hardwork

My father was Chinese as I have said, one time he opened up and I found out that he had it tough in his youth, living in the jungle to escape the war, taking on the task of providing for the family. I only knew of one job where he worked for someone else, other than that he worked hard for himself, only just managing to get by.

Sayings such as money doesn’t grow on trees, it is easier etc.

I don't deserve wealth 

When I was younger I always had a struggle with money, when we were growing up, we only seemed to barely have enough to get by. I grew up always looking for the cheapest thing, in my vocabulary Invest equated to cost. I was more about putting money away in a bank rather than looking at investment.

Other sayings are money is the route of all evil and it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God come to mind.

My mindset changed when I viewed money as energy, energy like water has to flow, if it stays still it stagnates just like still water in a pond. Water that is on the mover can do great things it can power massive electric generators, it can cut through the earth forming huge canyons. In the same way the flowing energy of money can create great things in lives.

Who would want to connect with me?

I grew up with a belief that I wasn;’t good enough, so this bled into my fear that people greater than me, whatever that means, would never consider connecting with me.

I have found that people love authentic connection, by authentic I mean a connection that has genuine intentions behind it. With social media it is so easy to reach out because you want something from someone, how many reach out to give or with the intention to connect just for the reason to connect

I have reached out and connected to global leaders in finance, IT, personal growth, multi functional companies and have got over the fear that I who am I to connect with them. People aren’t their position, they are still human beings and by approaching them as a fellow human wanting to connect I think the energy transmits and hence have have been successful in getting connection requests accepted

Kick that Shit

I became interested in self development when I was in the UK but only became serious in kicking my shit after we moved to Australia, I decided to train as a coach and selected a ICF (International Coaching Federation) accredited training centre. I am now a passionate Melbourne based coach who delivers powerful results for my clients. specifically in the area of rebuilding the dad child relationship. I have developed programmes to meet your individual needs bringing unique skills to the table obtained from 30+ years in corporate life and almost seven years as a proud father including an understanding of the pressures of balancing corporate/family/social life, setting priorities and implementing these in my life to reduce stress and illness.